This is not a diatribe about having a certain kind of marriage or abhorring certain civil unions or even an invitation to a “weekend to remember” marriage seminar. No, this is simply a common sense statement derived from years of listening to friends as well as walking through my own marriage struggles. The statement:

A healthy marriage is crucial for humanity to be beautiful.

If you desire to get married, then please remember that you will reap what you sow. If I cultivate love and life and health and living-beyond-self and communication and intimacy in my marriage and kids, I am most likely going to reap those things, see them blossom, in those very dear relationships. However, if I do not cultivate love and life and health and living-beyond-self and communication and intimacy there, then why in the world would I expect those relationships to work? ALSO, why would I expect those relationships NOT to impact the way I am either selfish or selfless in all my other relationships? They most certainly will.

@imarriage recently tweeted:

Law firm notes that almost one in five divorce petitions have cited Facebook. http://bit.ly/5MRuVh

Not a knock on FACEBOOK. I am on facebook. I like facebook. I appreciate the connection and networking and keeping-up-with on facebook. However, if we sow relationship through facebook more than in our marriages and families, then we can be assured that we will “virtually” see those relationships flourish, whether healthy or unhealthy, more than our marriage and families. That simply makes sense.

So, if you are married, cultivate that relationship BIG TIME, primarily, as priority. It is almost a guarantee that you will then posture yourself to be humanity beautiful. Maybe even together with your spouse. Which would be even more beautiful.

Togetherness matters. Cultivate it.